Relationship: The First Visitor

First thing to clear about is I’m not a that level of thinker to give you something valuable to take with from this writing. You may just read this as an act of kindness to my effort. 

 

I was never and am not a natural thinker who questions about things around him and gives his conscious and subconscious mind the necessary capital to go deep with those questions. But I appreciate those who do and may be for that reason sometimes some thoughts from the space do the favor of visiting my brain room. 

This time the visitor is Mr. Relationship. I don’t know exactly where he has come from and why, but you can give the credit of invitation to Mr. Mind because only he can bring the thinking of walking on the moon when the class lecture on Business Law is going on.

The topic is classification of relationship. I know this is an old one, but, now, its today’s one. I think, based on our intention of developing & maintaining a relation, our relationship with other human being can be classified into two types i.e. Transactional & Emotional relationship.

What is a transactional relationship? The relationship of giving with the intention of getting. The relationship in which you do care for a person because you expect similar response in return; the relationship in which the benefit of your side comes first; the relationship in which you expect thanks for your effort; the relationship you think of deduction when not serving; the relationship with potentiality of serving you in some way. The example can be your relationship with your HR for positive effect on upcoming appraisal.

What is then the emotional one? The investment in even expected zero or negative return project. The relationship in which you take the 100% responsibility of maintaining the relationship  because it gives you a sense of pleasure, comfort, peace spiritually; you feel eternally satisfied by doing good for that person; you are even ready to do the thankless job; and whatever the situation you just want that person to be okay. Nothing comes first in mind as example like the relationship between mother & child. 

There are definitely many kinds of relationships varying in nature, these two’s are only two of them. One giving your logical mind a relative sense of gain or potential gain and another a sense of gain through eternal satisfaction. 

I want to clarify, there’s nothing wrong with any of these relationships as both of them are necessary for our survival. One the way of life, you will find yourself maintaining transactional and emotional relationship depending on person to person. Don't feel guilty about that. Its okay.